decide and ask

I went to go see that movie How Do You Know with a couple girlfriends last night and although it was uber cheesy all in all I kinda liked it. There was one point in the movie that really struck a cord for me though, someone says 'Decide what it is that you want, and figure out how to ask for it' and Reese Witherspoon replies: 'Both those things are really hard.' I literally laughed out loud, because that was exactly what I had just said to myself! It is really hard. And right now I feel like I'm at a crossroads in more than one scenario in my life and that sentence right there is the one thing I can't figure out. I feel really lost, I feel like I'm leaving a lot of things unfinished, like I'm only giving half of myself in many situations, and that I'm fighting to find myself in this huge mess, and every time I think I'm getting close someone comes over with a big dump truck of more mess and throws it on top of me. Something has to change here but at the moment I'm not sure what or how...